Whether you are a single mom, dad or grandparent - if you are raising one child or many kids alone, March 21st is YOUR DAY and we want you to know that you are seen and appreciated for the hard work you put in.
We checked in with some local moms (shout out to the moms in Fort Mill, Union County, and Charlotte moms groups) for some real talk about what it means to be a single parent. As a non-single parent, there are things I never thought about. I will admit that with respect and love, and - to be honest - a solid dose of humility. But single parents, we applaud you.
Here are 10 reasons to salute single parents:
- They never really get a break - it's not like when you are married, even if a spouse travels. Most of the time, if not all of it, they are on their own.
- They make EVERY SINGLE DECISION ALONE
- Oftentimes, they aren't included - plain and simple, it's super hard to make friends when you are a single parent. You have to say not to plans a lot and, unless you are lucky, you just stop being asked.
- They are always worried about royally messing up their kid - the guilt is often unbearable.
- Even basic activities (or chores), become a juggling act. Every doctor appointment, every jury duty, every run to the store is a major undertaking
- They spread themselves beyond thin and (mostly) keep it together
- They often have to wear both parental hats - so things Daddy/Daughter or Mother/Son activities are extra challenging when there is only PARENT
- Time and again, the opportunity to pour from a full cup is unavailable. There is simply no time to fill the cup.
- They are the provider - mostly the ONLY provider and it is exhausting
- Even when they are sick, they have to be on - and we all know how hard that can be.
So Single Parents - moms, dads, grands ... whoever you are. It is a tough road but we also know that every day you show up. You show up when you are tired. You make all the hard decisions (alone). You get no breaks. You sometimes say "No" more than you want to or more than your children's peer's parents. You cannot always volunteer when you want to. The list goes on. And to know that most of your married peers do not understand this is just your reality, so asking for help is that much harder.
You make choices on how to physically be in two places at once and mostly, you do it seemingly effortlessly. At least to me, a mom with a husband kids and a dog who can barely remember what day it is, you are incredible. My wish to you is that you'll let go of the guilt and celebrate all you do every day and know that we are celebrating alongside you.
